おはようございます。KANOです。今回はこちらの記事から。
人々が悲しみを抱える時間の平均と、悲しみを紛らわす方法について。
私は親が死んでも悲しまなかった人間でして、情が本当に薄いんだなぁと我ながらドン引きしましたw 元記事では「人それぞれで異なる」と書いてて安心。
analogy
意味 [C] （似ていて） 思い浮かぶもの, たとえ
But the concept of ‘getting over’ grief is perhaps a bit misguided. In fact, there’s a famous analogy that grief is like a ball in a box with a pain button on one side.
https://metro.co.uk/2023/04/12/how-long-should-grief-last-a-third-of-brits-think-six-months-18596646/
destructive
意味 〈人· 物· 事が〉破壊的な; 〈考えなどが〉非建設的な, 否定的な （⇔constructive）
‘This idea that grief should last a certain amount of time can often be destructive within family and friendships groups; people stop feeling empathy and start to think “they should be over this by now,” often resulting in the grieving person feeling even more isolated and with no-one to talk to.
https://metro.co.uk/2023/04/12/how-long-should-grief-last-a-third-of-brits-think-six-months-18596646/
温度差ありますね。だから葬式も行かないことにしてます。
internalize
意味 〈習慣· 原理· 基準など〉を身につける, 自分のものにする; …を内面化する.
‘Grief can be a powerful and sometimes overwhelming emotion that when internalised can lead to other conditions such as depression.’
https://metro.co.uk/2023/04/12/how-long-should-grief-last-a-third-of-brits-think-six-months-18596646/
closure
意味 [U]感情の整理 [区切り]
‘You can even imagine that person is in front of you and say the words out loud as if speaking to them. This can offer people the closure they need to begin the grieving process.
https://metro.co.uk/2023/04/12/how-long-should-grief-last-a-third-of-brits-think-six-months-18596646/
苛立った時や大きな決断時にジャーナリングはよくやります。ごちゃごちゃ悩んでる事が整理できてよいです。
attribute
意味 （本来的な） 属性, 特性, 特質 （特に好ましい有益な性質をさす）
‘If you are experiencing grief through the loss of a job or your identity, try reflecting on all of your positive attributes and the things that you do well,’ says Claire.
https://metro.co.uk/2023/04/12/how-long-should-grief-last-a-third-of-brits-think-six-months-18596646/
attitudeに空目したー。
私は人間関係よりも転職時や環境変化時のほうがストレスかかりますね。自分自身の事しか興味ないからw
