When you say F*** It you stop worrying (generally), give up worrying (mainly) and end up being happy to be yourself in the present moment (if you’re lucky.)
The problem for most of us in the Western world – stressed‑out, uptight, anxious and controlling as we are – is that we need something with the power of an expression like F*** It to jerk us into a more relaxed state.
It’s funny after years of describing the effect of F*** It in this way, I read about a study of people who’d had damage to the left brain, and thus had trouble with speech. As these people could easily say swear words, however, the study concluded that, unlike all other language (which is generated in the left brain), swear words must be generated in the right brain, or across both hemispheres.
Anxiety, most of it’s about doom laden scenarios into the future. We have no idea what’s going to happen into the future, but we create a false idea world of what might happen, whereas it hasn’t happened yet. It’s entirely mentally created.
If you’re up for it, say this to yourself a few times: ‘I am okay with things passing and fading away in my life. I will be okay no matter what happens to me and those around me. I let go of my hold on life and allow life simply to flow around me and through me.’
Start to enjoy feeling good inside yourself. And realise that you don’t need to moan and criticize. If you do feel crap inside (like we all do sometimes), try to accept that feeling, too, without looking for things outside yourself to blame it on.
I think what gets easier is one’s ability to understand what’s going on and to see through your own patterns, and maybe to see through a lot of people’s patterns as well, which makes it easier to be compassionate with them and yourself.
