【Metro】Yes, you’re allowed to be glad when a toxic relative dies

おはようございます。KANOです。今回はこちらの記事から。

Yes, you're allowed to be glad when a toxic relative dies

'You are not a bad person if you don’t feel sad or grief-stricken by your loss.'

metro.co.uk

嫌いな身内との別れにどう対処するか。喜んでしまう自分を否定しないでねという話。
ここ数年で両親亡くなったんですが、両方全く好きじゃなかったから、私は変わらず元気ですw　でも反面教師にして習慣改善に勤しめてるので、彼らの死も無駄ではないかな。

detached

意味　〈感情· 意見· 態度などが〉冷静な, 超然とした; 公平な; 冷めた

As soon as the book’s publication was announced, I knew I had to read it. And when I did, I adored it. Jennette marries detached, biting wit with a sophisticated empathy that is liable to take your breath away at least once a chapter.

https://metro.co.uk/2022/11/02/yes-youre-allowed-to-be-glad-when-a-harmful-relative-dies-17679915/

resentment

意味　[U][具体例では a (…) ～/～s]憤り, 憤慨, 怒り (anger); 恨み

‘We may have had a difficult relationship with them when they were alive, which may have led to certain injustices, hurt, pain and resentments; or they may have suffered with a debilitating illness for a long time before finally passing away.

https://metro.co.uk/2022/11/02/yes-youre-allowed-to-be-glad-when-a-harmful-relative-dies-17679915/

grief

意味　[U] 悲しみ, 悲嘆, 悲痛

She explains: ‘When we think our feelings are “not normal” or “not enough” or even that we “feel nothing”, this is called “complicated grief”.

https://metro.co.uk/2022/11/02/yes-youre-allowed-to-be-glad-when-a-harmful-relative-dies-17679915/

destructive

意味　 〈考えなどが〉非建設的な, 否定的な （⇔constructive）

Laura says: ‘Guilt and shame are two of the most destructive emotions we can feel, so it’s important when trying to process someone’s death that we try to make sure these feelings do not overwhelm us.

https://metro.co.uk/2022/11/02/yes-youre-allowed-to-be-glad-when-a-harmful-relative-dies-17679915/

estrangement

意味　[U][C]仲たがい, 別居.

Part of how people feel when a harmful relative dies could be down to the act of estrangement itself – a parting of ways which can feel like grief even when the other party is still living.

https://metro.co.uk/2022/11/02/yes-youre-allowed-to-be-glad-when-a-harmful-relative-dies-17679915/

vent

意味　〈感情など〉を発散させる, ぶちまける

‘Finally, be kind to yourself. It seems like an obvious thing to say but rest, eat well, surround yourself with loved ones, get some fresh air and journal if you need to vent. You might feel many different emotions all at once or none at all. Just remember you are a person with feelings and that’s okay, whatever they are.’

https://metro.co.uk/2022/11/02/yes-youre-allowed-to-be-glad-when-a-harmful-relative-dies-17679915/

grudge

意味　[C] 恨み, 遺恨, 悪意

Sure, letting yourself be happy someone died might sound bitter, but there’s a difference between holding grudges and properly understanding your own complicated feelings.

https://metro.co.uk/2022/11/02/yes-youre-allowed-to-be-glad-when-a-harmful-relative-dies-17679915/

pretend to do

意味　…である […する] ふりをする, …と […すると] 見せかける

‘In these overwhelming moments, you don’t have to feel the need to conform to social conventions and pretend to be sad or suppress your true emotions because of the stigma associated with this natural emotional response or because “it’s bad to speak ill of the dead”.

https://metro.co.uk/2022/11/02/yes-youre-allowed-to-be-glad-when-a-harmful-relative-dies-17679915/